Sexuality in the Birthchart

sex and astrologyAs with most things in life, sexuality is a complex creature with multiple layers of experience, and that complexity is mirrored in the variety of sexual expressions that we see in the astrological chart.  The sexual experience encompasses a wide variety of motivations and feelings and the astrological signatures for these feelings help us to understand more about how we approach sexuality in our own life.

Typically, astrologers look to Mars for the expression of the sexual drive. Mars rules our drive and desire, and therefore it rules sexual desire along with our desire for ice cream or a new car.  Any desire is fueled by the energy of Mars to activate something in the individual, and sexuality is no exception.

Mars also describes the way we pursue what we want; it shows what kind of sexuality we prefer and how we go about attracting a partner.  The placement and aspects of Mars describe the sexual techniques and feelings that are most comfortable to us.  For example, an airy Mars is more likely to be stimulated by the energy of sex, or to be drawn to sexual fantasies and ideas.  An earthy Mars will require lots of physical contact.  Watery Mars prefers a powerful emotional content to the sexual experience, and fiery Mars is all about desire and the scratching of an itch.  The aspects that other planets make to Mars help to color the sexual experience as well.  Saturn conjunct Mars may inhibit our sexuality; Jupiter square Mars could signify a large number of sexual conquests. 

Mars is the ancient ruler of Scorpio, and Scorpio is well-known for its sexy qualities.  To the ancients, Scorpio embodied the drive of Mars and the fire that burns deep within the soul to achieve release and ecstasy.  Scorpio’s modern ruler Pluto opens the door to a new understanding of sexuality that was well known to the ancient Tantric sages of Eastern mysticism; that sexuality is interwoven with power and magic and holds within it the seeds of spiritual transformation.  So with Pluto and Scorpio, as well as the Eighth House, we have another level of sexuality:  the intimacy of soul connection and the power of passion.

The Fifth House is often associated with love affairs, but these affairs and romantic experiences have more to do with the expression of the self and the Ego than a true experience of sexuality.  Fifth House affairs are purely for fun and for feeling good about ourselves rather than for deep emotional bonding that would take place in the Eighth House. 

And finally Venus, that delicious goddess of love, is typically less concerned with sex than with the connection of the lives that two people share.  Venus Aphrodite used the power of her sexuality to attract but appeared to have little interest in the sexual act itself.  In fact, she rejected all of her suitors and it wasn’t until she fell into a relationship with Mars/Ares, the god of war and desire, that she appears to have lost some of the control for which she was famous. 

When we are looking for sexual compatibility, it is Mars and Pluto that will reveal the secrets!

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By | 2018-11-27T16:49:23+00:00 October 19th, 2015|Astrology|12 Comments


  1. Claudia October 19, 2015 at 8:08 am - Reply

    Good morning, Lynn.

    When looking for sexual compatibility, we look to their Mars and Pluto to see what A’s aspects are to B’s aspects?

    Would a square be more dynamic between lovers. I know the trine is an easy flow….

    Interesting article. Another great article by Lynn. I would love to read more about this.

    Be well!

    • October 20, 2015 at 7:57 am - Reply

      Claudia, it’s not quite that simple but yes – that’s a good start. Squares ARE more dynamic – for example, Brad and Angelina have a fair number of squares between their charts and their relationship is a passionate one. It works for them because they are always traveling, but if they were normal people in a suburban household the passion could soon turn into conflict. There is a great deal of conflict when there are Mars squares between charts and often that can be channeled into excitement and productive activity but sometimes it is just painful.

      • beth October 22, 2015 at 9:21 pm - Reply

        Can I ask–what about: Pluto squares, especially to Mars?

        And what about Mars oppositions?

        This was a great post!


        • October 26, 2015 at 4:45 pm - Reply

          Beth, do you mean squares from Pluto in one chart to Mars in another? That can be challenging – whenever Pluto is in a hard aspect to another chart the non-Pluto person tends to feel overpowered by the Pluto person. I worked with someone whose Sun/Mars conjunction was conjunct my Pluto. She was very competitive with me (Mars) but also said she was somewhat afraid of me (Pluto).

  2. Claudia October 19, 2015 at 8:11 am - Reply

    Good morning, Lynn.

    When looking for sexual compatibility, we look to A’s Mars and Pluto to see what aspects are to B’s aspects?

    Would a square be more dynamic between lovers. I know the trine is an easy flow….I would think the trine could become boring.

    My Mars in Libra is sextile to my Moon conjunct Pluto in the 8th house. I am deep and I love with all my heart. There is no halfway place for me in love.

    Interesting article. Another great article by Lynn. I would love to read more about this.

    Be well!

  3. Luna Pixxy October 19, 2015 at 9:18 pm - Reply

    I have three major planets in the 8th house with tight conjunction. I have had a Marsian lover. A terrible experience and waste of time. It was like training a dog. Stick with Scorpio or other heavy 8th house aspects. Period.

    • October 20, 2015 at 8:00 am - Reply

      Sometimes Mars, like Aries, can be too superficial for a Scorpio or eighth house focus. But as with anything astrological you don’t want to simplify this too much because there are so many other factors involved.

    • Harshad October 20, 2015 at 8:38 am - Reply

      Yes, if you have some terrible placements in eighth house or conjunction, then sexuality will be on it peak. I have seen so many people who has venus in eighth they are addicted to sex. And if one has conjunction of venus and mars in eighth house, they are nasty!

  4. Astro October 30, 2015 at 4:42 am - Reply

    Thanks for article.

  5. Jennifer October 31, 2015 at 4:18 pm - Reply

    Hi Lynn .I know men and women who have affairs…is this normal??

  6. Lily June 9, 2017 at 8:38 pm - Reply

    What if you have mars trine Pluto?

    • June 27, 2017 at 8:01 am - Reply

      It depends on the rest of the chart, Lily, and the signs that Mars and Pluto fall in.

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